We have a play date this afternoon! I know, traditionally, the play date is for the kids but this one is as much for the parents as it is for the kids. I’m trying to manage my expectations so I can manage my anxiety over this whole thing.
- Today, I am hoping Monkey will walk into a new house without tears.
- Today, I am hoping he can find some enjoyment in playing with some new friends.
- Today, I am hoping my nervousness about how he will do won’t show.
So, my job for the next hour is to be calm, cool and collected. That’s realistic, right?
Quick, someone toss me some coping skills!
Dunno about coping skills, but play it down to ‘monkey’, if he thinks it’s no big deal to you then he can’t feed off your anxiety. I would usually say, lie down, relax, listen to some soothing music, but hey, you’re an FX Mum, you don’t get to do those things ;o) Good luck, hope it goes well, make sure he takes something he really gets comfort from so that he has soething familiar to ‘grip’ if he needs it xx
It should be noted that the play date is with other FX families… I think that’s amping the anxiety up a little more as well.
lol, oh my, it’s funny how the thought of others doing the same will make your own more upset! It’s quite sad that our fraggles get upset with having to mix with ‘normal’ kids as much as they do with other FX or otherwise special kids. I feel your anxiety, if there are others who are anxious he will pick up on it. Eric, banish her to a room on her own for a while with some ‘chill out’ music and a stiff drink ;o)xx
It makes it better and worse that it’s with other FX families. I sort of really want him to feel like he’s found his peeps, you know? Kids that live it too though I know that’s unreasonable. The part that makes it better is that I’m pretty confident that he won’t do the worst thing he’s ever done (or they’ve ever seen) today, lol.
I know what you mean but they really don’t get that like we do. I’m sure it’ll be fine, and you’re right, he won’t do anything that the others don’t do or the other parents haven’t seen before. Just try and relaaaaaaaaaaaaax and enjoy the fact that you have other FXers around you that you can relate to :o)xx